Stop Crying

Stop Crying

Do you cry too much? My father used to reward me for staying in and being safe. As a police officer he coolly handled blood, insanity and anger, but he could not handle threats to his children. He could not handle the idea of them making mistakes or being shamed. His heart was in the right place and I loved him dearly.

A reviewer one said that my book was annoying because Katherine Weldon cried too much in the first hundred pages. She’d grown up being afraid and uncertain of herself. Life overwhelmed her when it intruded her pampered life behind suffocating Victorian drapery in her parents’ parlor.

She recklessly jumped at the first invitation to adventure with a man trying to run from his own demons.

Do we cry more before or after we risk our lives to fully live?

8 responses to “Stop Crying”

  1. When I think of crying I think of Amelia Sedley in Vanity Fair who doesn’t seem to be able to stop, all for the love of a long gone husband

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    • As it should be. That kind of devotion is pretty special. In one year, I got divorced, my father died unexpectedly, I remarried, moved out of state and then had a breakdown. I’m sure my mother dreaded picking up the phone! 🙂

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  2. There are times for tears, but the lessons we learn most are from suffering. Without suffering, we would be undone by any calamity. However, it is true when I look at my grandchildren, I would like to make their future journey easier.

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    • My father tried so hard to keep us safe when we were young. He killed himself worrying about all the things that could go wrong. As a young adult I had no idea how to be brave. I knew how to suffer the anguish of being cowardly. There were a great many lessons in that, one of them being that suffering will still find you if you hide from it.

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  3. Many years ago, as a young man, I had a breakdown (or was it just an emotional release?) I cried for four hours and was unable to stop. I was at work and had been told off for something (I don’t remember what) and in mid rebuttal I burst into tears. I was massively embarrassed and angry and frightened. I’m from the generation where men didn’t cry. Many decades later and I cry a lot (mostly at dog rescue videos). I’ve always marvelled at the ability that females have to release their emotions through tears. As for the criticism? Don’t read crits — once you write and release a book it doesn’t belong to you anymore. The reader will read what they think your book is about and that’s on them. As long as they pay for the book, who cares what they think. I once got a long mediocre review from someone who got my book for free. Buy the book and you can say what you like haha.

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    • LOL. Yes, the free review. I find the reviews encouraging in general, but there have been a few mean-spirited ones. My daughter read an article about reviews. It said that people tend to think negative reviewers are somehow more knowledgeable but also meaner people. Hahaha!

      On Amazon people always mark the negative reviews as “helpful” but for books it’s annoying because it pushes that review to the top. I don’t think readers always realize that they are in fact helping to turn away readers more than the original review. There are two reviews from before I had my first book professionally edited that still haunt my Amazon homepage despite so many more recent good reviews that are hidden because the page shows most helpful not most recent. Live and learn. 🙂

      About the crying, even as a woman it sometimes feels pathetic to cry, but it really is a good thing. It’s a sign that something is there that needs to be dealt with. If a character is feeling weak or sad I let them have it. For me the most enjoyable part of writing is allowing the characters to be as flawed as they need to be.
      I cry at horse rescue videos a lot too!

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