The most glorious moments in your life are not the so-called days of success, but rather those days when out of dejection and despair you feel rise in you a challenge to life, and the promise of future accomplishments.–Flaubert

A friend trying to console me after my father’s death said that on the bright side I could now live a more independent life free of unnecessary attachments. But coming from a family that prides itself on clannish codependency the remark annoyed me. I knew the person meant well–all of that “when one door closes…